Sermon Transcript
My wedding was the happiest day of my life. I love my children so much, but there was nothing like watching my wife walk down that aisle. She was 19 years old, I was 20. We got married at a very young age; we did things the old-school way. And this truly was the most thrilling day of my life. I did not have a career, we did not have money, we were college students, and yeah, basically all the things that you normally wait for now to get married, we didnât have any of that.
It was hard. We rented a house on the border of the ghetto in Alexandria, Louisiana. There was a lot of crime nearby where we lived. It was beautiful. It was the greatest day of my life. But ever since no-fault divorce has been entered into American legislation, I think it started in the late 1960s, no-fault divorce caused the divorce rate in our country to double. No-fault divorce means you can go get a divorce without claiming any wrongdoing, if you didnât know. Itâs not that your husband slept around; itâs just, âWeâre done, we grew apart.â Once that happened, the divorce rate in America doubled.
Now, itâs gotten even worse since then because now not only has the divorce rate doubled, but now we celebrate divorce. On the rise is this crazy phenomenon called divorce parties. Has anybody heard of this before? This is shocking. Divorce is the death of something that should have represented the most beautiful milestone in your life.
Now, weâre throwing parties to celebrate it, where people are coming together. Thereâs this online platform called Evite. Evite tracks all of the parties and whatâs happening and all that. They said theyâve seen a significant reach. Last year was an all-time high for divorce parties. And this trend, quote, âhighlights a shift towards using celebrations to transform life transitions into positive experiences.â
The article is admitting that theyâre using celebration to turn something that should be seen as dark and depressing to transform it into a positive thing. It doesnât matter what youâre doing in their eyes. If you throw a celebration for it, it takes the evil out of the picture. It doesnât work like that, does it? Unfortunately, we believe that if we have a party, we can make death no longer stink. A 53-year-old woman held a divorce party where she invited more than 30 people to celebrate. And she said, âFiling for divorce is an act of freedom. Why should I not celebrate one of the bravest choices Iâve ever made for myself?â The way we handle marriage and divorce, by and large, is directly related to this idea: What does it have to do for me? We only like to stay married and contribute to things if we think it benefits us. But as Christians, we know thatâs not why we do anything in the world, right? Amen? We do everything for Jesus. Amen? Right. Today, Jesus is going to celebrate marriage and reveal what it is truly all about. And then He is going to engage with us, to encourage us, to embrace it, and encourage others to do the same.
And that is why the main point of todayâs sermon is: We must cherish and encourage marriage as God originally intended it. So, Church, please rise with me as we read Matthew 19:3â12. This morning, Iâm going to be reading from the Christian Standard Bible.
Some Pharisees approached him to test him. They asked, âIs it lawful for a man to divorce his wife on any grounds?â âHavenât you read,â he replied, âthat he who created them in the beginning made them male and female, and he also said, âFor this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one fleshâ? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.â âWhy then,â they asked him, âdid Moses command us to give divorce papers and to send her away?â He told them, âMoses permitted you to divorce your wives because of the hardness of your hearts, but it was not like that from the beginning. I tell you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another commits adultery.â His disciples said to him, âIf the relationship of a man with his wife is like this, itâs better not to marry.â He responded, âNot everyone can accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their motherâs womb, there are eunuchs who were made by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves that way because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept it should accept it.â (Matthew 19:3â12, CSB)
This is the word of the Lord, Church. You may be seated.
Father, I come to You now in the name of Jesus, and I ask that You would glorify Yourself through this sermon. Lord, I put a lot of heart and sweat into studying these texts this week, and just like every Sunday, I feel ill-equipped to be Your spokesperson. So Iâm asking that You would override all of my shortcomings and that You would just speak up for Your people and have them hear Your message, whether it comes out of my mouth that way or not. Jesus, will You please own this service? Will You come and dwell here and let Your glory be seen and felt? In Jesusâ name, amen.
Prelimenary Statements
Okay, so hereâs some things that I want you guys to remember. One, what weâre doing here is we are trying to go through all the commands of Christ. Why? Because we know that the purpose of the Church is to go out and make disciples of all nations by baptizing them. And what, Church? Teaching them to obey all that I have commanded you (Matthew 28:19â20), which means that we must have a working knowledge of all that Jesus has commanded us if we intend to make disciples. And so we are going command by command by command until we have covered everything that Jesus has taught us. Now, the command that comes directly from Jesus today is, He says, âLet not man separate what God has brought togetherâ (Matthew 19:6). As a whole, this is all coming from this broader command from Jesus: cherish and encourage marriage exactly the way God designed it in the Garden of Eden.
Now, some of you have gotten divorces, and this sermon is not meant to make anyone feel judged. Iâm not here today to tell you that the reason you got divorced was wrong. Hear me. I am not here to tell you that you didnât try hard enough. Iâm not here to tell you that God hates you, that Heâs angry with you, and that you donât belong here. One, every single person in this room is a sinner. Two, every single person in this room needs the blood of Jesus to wash over their sin. Three, every single one of us, if you are married, needs to do a better job. And four, if youâre not yet married, pursue it because itâs a beautiful thing. So, thatâs enough of my preliminary statements. Letâs jump into this text, all right? So, nobodyâs come into this text or this sermon with this idea of youâre out to get me, right? Amen? Weâre here to learn from Jesus. Letâs see what Jesus has to say.
Enjoy Marriage (Matthew 19:3â6)
All right, so the first bullet point, if youâre new here, we follow a handy-dandy little sermon leaflet in the bulletin. You can follow along with that to help understand the flow of thought of the sermon, okay? So, the first thing that I want you guys to recognize is Jesus is calling us to enjoy marriage. Look at verses 3â6. So, who comes to the picture here in verse 3? What we get is that we see the Pharisees are showing up. Every time the Pharisees show up to test Jesus, they are not really interested in whether he gives the right answer. Theyâre interested in, âDoes Jesus agree with me?â So, thatâs the first lesson. Never approach Jesus to see if He gives you what you want or if He agrees with you; our relationship with Jesus should solely depend on, âIâm dedicated to do whatever You want me to do.â Amen? Thatâs right, but thatâs not why the Pharisees are here today. They want to see, does Jesus, this guy who is sweeping the nation, agree with us? So, what are they interested in? Theyâre interested in asking Jesus, âJesus, can I get a divorce for any reason whatsoever?â
Thatâs a pretty big statement. There was a time in my life when my marriage really struggled, and by the way, before you get offended, let me just tell you, my wife and I are an open book. She agrees with me that she wants other people to learn from our mistakes in our marriage as well. So, if I say something about how my wife and I struggled in our marriage, one, you shouldnât be surprised at all because weâre both sinners, but two, she gladly welcomes any kind of statement about our former struggles, okay? So, sheâs not in here because sheâs taking care of the kids today, but I promise you, she and I are on the same page here. My wife and I, we did struggle, and Iâm not going to lie, there was a point in my life where our marriage was struggling so bad that I could have sympathized with the Pharisees on this statement, and yeah, sure, that might really shock you that your pastor is a sinner and that he was in a dark place at one point, but he was, and if youâve never struggled in your marriage, then Iâm just going to call you a liar to your face, right? Marriage is one of the hardest things that humans will ever do. I will tell you, marriage for me was harder than raising kids, but now my sonâs 15, so itâs reversed.
All right, so what were some of the things that were going on with the Pharisees? When these Pharisees showed up to test Jesus, you see, theyâre stemming from two different types of Jewish theory of first-century Israel. Theyâre coming with two different types of beliefs. You had two major rabbis, one was Hillel, the other was Shammai, and these two rabbis disagreed on how to interpret what Moses said was right reasons for divorce. You had one that said Moses only permitted divorce in the cases of adultery, and then you had the other guy who was saying that you could get divorced for any reason whatsoever. In fact, those divorces that you could get divorced for, I mean those reasons, letâs say she didnât age well, you donât like her moles on her face, âYouâre out of here,â or you found someone younger and prettier because youâve been on earth for 30-plus more years than this other gal that caught his eye, âYouâre out of here.â You werenât physically intimate enough, you didnât clean the house enough, you didnât dress the way your husband wanted, or you just spoke too loudly. These are reasons that you see in the Talmud that would have been justified by this particular theory on reasons to get divorced. It doesnât sound very fair, right?
Well, Jesus, when they are coming up to test Jesus, theyâre essentially asking Jesus, âDo You agree with us? Can I divorce my wife for any reason whatsoever?â And they have these reasons in mind. Keep that in mind, Church, because I want you to understand that what weâre doing here today, we are talking about a theory of divorce that relates to a permissive attitude. We are specifically talking about the idea of divorce that you can just get divorced because you donât like her, okay? Thatâs the kind of people that Jesus is dealing with today, and so are we. So, when they come to Jesus, they want to know, âDoes Jesus agree with us?â And how does Jesus respond? Did He agree with the first group or did He agree with the second group? Does Jesus say, âYouâre right, the other groupâs right, you can get divorced for adulteryâ? No, He doesnât, actually. He denies their question altogether. He doesnât say He agrees with group A or group B. He says the very fact that youâre asking says that youâve completely missed the point of marriage.
So, what does He say? In verse 4, this is where we get Jesusâ response. He brings them back to the Garden of Eden. He says, âHavenât you read?â Of course theyâve read. Theyâre Pharisees. Theyâve memorized the Old Testament, the Hebrew Bible. And what does He do? He cites two verses from the Old Testament. First, He cites Genesis 1:27. He says, âHave you not read? God made them male and female.â For this reason, and then He starts to cite Genesis 2:24. âFor this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.â Jesus says, at that point, there are no longer two different people. Church, hear me. When you get married, you are no longer individuals. You are one unit. Marriage has no place for, âWell, what about me?â When you become one flesh, it always becomes about the unit.
All right, that was a caveat. But Jesus says, He brings it back to the Garden, and He says, âHere, this is the way it was in the Garden. God made you two different genders for a reason. The way He created your physical organs is built for unity. And then you become one flesh, not just spiritually, but physically as well. This is the way God created it. Itâs a beautiful thing. Youâre asking about divorce. Youâre completely missing the beauty that is marriage.â
So, Jesusâ retort, He comes back at them because Heâs pointing out, âYouâre wanting to separate, and youâre completely missing the fact that God has done a work here. It is God who has brought you two together.â And therefore, when you try to separate it in verse 6, you are destroying Godâs work. He says, âTherefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate.â I love this word. So, this is a word thatâs used here in Greek. Itâs not as common as a lot of other words. So, I didnât know this word when I came across it. And thatâs not surprising. There are thousands of Greek words. But this one word, this one word was really cool. Itâs a compound word. And when it says God joined them together, itâs a compound of âtogetherâ and âyoke.â So, a yoke is when you have an oxen. I might have to ask Bart to explain this one. But you have oxen, right? And you put the head in the hole, and youâve got the yoke on the shoulders, and theyâre meant to work the field. Well, it says, the Greek word here means that theyâre yoked together. God is yoking them together, which means you share a yoke as husband and wife. And it paints this picture that God has purposed you with a mission, and yâall are working on the same mission together. Thatâs the picture of a beautiful marriage when you were both recognizing, âWe are together for a specific purpose. That specific purpose is God-ordained. And that mission is our marriageâs focus, and we will not lose sight of that. Letâs go work the field. Letâs go work the field.â Right? Thatâs marriage. I love that imagery that my wife and I, we are on mission together. And that mission is from God.
And that means that with this in mind, when we are destroying marriage, and this is Jesusâ rebuke of the Pharisees, when youâre destroying marriage, youâre shattering the yoke. Youâre telling God, âI donât want Your mission,â because the mission is directly tied to your marriage. âI donât want Your mission. I donât want to do Your work. I want to worry about me.â Thatâs the kind of attitude the Pharisees have here when theyâre asking, âCan I get divorced for any reason?â Now, the point here is that Jesus wants us to enjoy marriage. He wants you to take a step back and realize, âNow hold up, weâre struggling. We might fight about bills. We might fight because my wife likes to shop too much. We might fight because my husband leaves his hair on the bathroom counter. We might fight because the toilet seatâs always up. The laundry stinks. Thereâs constant work.â You want to fight, move across the country. Thereâs great ways to be stressed in all facets of life. But Jesus is saying, if you really look at what God has done here, and take a step back, and look at each other, and realize, âGod has put me together with you for a specific purpose to change the world and to do something great.â When you take a step back and you look at what God has done, how He has yoked you together, all of a sudden, hair on the bathroom counter, spending too much at Target, they drift in the wind like chaff because youâre getting a bigger picture of whatâs important, right? And thatâs what the Pharisees were missing.
The Common Work for Married Couples
So what is the common work? If youâre looking in the bulletin, I want you to fill these two things out. The common work, the shared mission between couples is to preach the gospel visually. The second thing is to multiply disciples. What do I mean by âpreach the gospel visuallyâ? Folks, what Iâm about to tell you is the one thing that kept my wife and I from getting divorced, and that is Ephesians 5:32â33. What does Paul say? He says that when God created Adam and Eve in the Garden, male and female, and He brought them together, he says in Ephesians 5 that the first marriage represented Christâs pursuit of the Church. The husband represents Jesus and the wife represents the Church.
That thought radically made me fight for my marriage more than anything in the world. Why? Because while I might struggle loving another sinner, when I look at Christ and what He has done for me, I am motivated to fight until my very dying breath. What I realized is I do love Jesus. I will always love Jesus because He put that in me. His love that He performed or put on display for me on the cross will always garner my allegiance to Him, okay? My biggest fear is that I am caught being a liar, and someone thinks Iâm a hypocrite because my actions say, âYou donât really believe that Jesus is the Savior of the world.â That terrifies me. Paul says that marriage is created to be a visual sermon. How a man loves his wife is a reflection of the gospel. Men, if you are not loving your wife the way Christ loves the Church, then that is a visual sermon that says you do not believe that Jesus really died for the Church. That terrified me. For that reason alone, I decided that no matter how unlovable my wife might be, even if she becomes like Gomer, my wife would neverâbut even if, this is why I had our brother read from Hosea 3, because even if your wife cheats on you time and time again, you know what Iâm going to do? I want to represent Christ, and He went after a harlotting, whoring people. We worshipped false gods since the day we were born, and Jesus would not let us go. He fought for you tooth and nail to His very dying breath, and we were prostitutes with false gods. So no matter what my wife does, even if it kills me, Iâm going to pursue her. Why? Because I believe that how I treat my wife is directly related to how I believe Jesus pursued me. Thatâs a biblical marriage.
Husbands, Iâm looking at you. The onus is on you. You represent Christ. You have a far greater responsibility to preach this sermon visually than your wives do. Yes, husbands, I will tell you, I will break all the social norms of whatâs accepted in society and say, men are the head of the household. But I will also remind you, that means you are to die to yourself, and the onus of this visual sermon is far greater on you than it is on your wife, because you represent Jesus. So we enjoy marriage, and we enjoy marriage as we recognize that we have a mission from God first to preach a visual sermon.
And wives, I want to tell you, you have to submit to your husband. Now, husbands, be someone thatâs submittable to, okay? Ephesians 5 makes that clear. But wives, you have to submit to your husbandâs leadership. Why? Because in the visual sermon, it says that you really believe that the Church is meant to serve Christ. Does that make sense? Both spouses play a role in this visual sermon. Iâm telling you, the marriage tells you far more about whether someone believes the gospel than anything else.
I attended an event once where it was intended to gather all the pastors in the area, and they were trying to raise money for missions. And this husband was doing great. I mean, he was writing a check, making a donation. I donât want to name the ministry, because if I say the ministry, you might figure it out. But we were at this thing, and this guy was writing a check to make a donation. It was time to take donations, and he was smiling, saying amen, and praising the Lord. And the wife was just sitting there, rolling her eyes, and mocked him, saying, âHe always does this.â And weâre sitting at a table, and my wife and I are just like, âI canât believe this.â She was just cutting him every step. And it broke my heart, because I only saw this man trying to serve the Lord, and it destroyed the witness of their marriage. Maybe that man is like a terrible husband at home, and thatâs why she was like that in public. I donât know. All I know is that what was supposed to be a beautiful image of these two fighting for missions around the world stole glory from Jesus. Your marriages are incredibly important because that is how you exalt the Lord. And when one of you is not performing well, youâre not making yourself look bad. Youâre making Jesus look bad. Okay? All right. That was the end of the free bit.
So, the second thing I want to point out to you, the second mission that we are called to, in your bulletin, is we are called to be fruitful and multiply. Remember, it says, the common work for married couples is to visually preach the gospel and to multiply disciples. I know there are people who have tried to have kids, and they could not. Okay? Malachi 2:15, write that in the side. You can go home and look at it at home. Malachi 2:15 says that the purpose, another purpose, God created marriage was so that couples could have godly offspring. And this goes back to the Garden in Genesis 1. We talked about this on making disciples on Wednesday night, that the reason God made Adam and Eve is because He intended for them to be fruitful and multiply. And this all ties back to the great commission: âGo, therefore, and make disciples of all nationsâ (Matthew 28:19). So, if you are a married couple who is unable to have kids, you can still multiply disciples. You just do it with other peopleâs kids.
And do you know, 80% of all incarcerated criminals come from a fatherless home? Do you understand, people, that that means that thereâs a very large group of people for men to just be a good mentor to and be in their life? I mean, thereâs a ton of children that do not have parental examples who are trying to point people the way of God.
I love Ms. Alice Alford. I hope everyone has had the opportunity to meet Ms. Alice. She is one of our shut-ins. Sheâs stuck at home. Ms. Alice tells me these glory stories of the days her and her husband used to just round up all the kids on the church bus and bring them to church. They never could have kids, so they had 30 of them instead. And every week, they would go pick them up, and the people in the neighborhood came to trust Ms. Alice and her husband, Junior. They came to trust Junior so much that they started handing their babies over. All the kids in the neighborhood, because of Junior and Alice, they knew that the great work that they were doing. And Junior and Ms. Alice, they would just bring them to go get food after church. They treated them as their own children. That is the image of marriage as God intended it in the Garden. You preach a visual sermon, and you multiply disciples.
Preserve Marriage (Matthew 19:7â9)
Preserve marriage is the next point. Verses 7â9. The Pharisees, they come back to Jesus, and they say, âOkay, Jesus, if Youâre so smart, if we arenât supposed to get divorced, then why in the world did Moses tell us that we could get divorced?â What theyâre referring to is Deuteronomy 24:1â4. And in that passage, Moses says, âIf any man finds something that is undesirable about his wife,â well, actually, the Hebrew word there is up for debate. But most scholars believe it refers to anything that has to do with unchastity. King James readers probably know what this means. For those of us who were born 500 years later, erwat means basically that youâre doing anything that is illicit sexually. So it goes beyond adultery. It could be pedophilia, heavy porn use, cross-dressing, you name it. And Moses says, âIf you discover something about your wife that is unchaste about her, then you write her, and if you write her a certificate of divorce, and she leaves you and marries another man, just know that she cannot come back to you, and you remarry her.â He says that this would defile the land. So this is what the Pharisees have in mind when they come back to Jesus, and they say, âWell, if weâre not supposed to get divorce, then why did Moses write us the command?â And so Jesus actually says, you would think that Jesus would at this point, He would go, âWell, the command was given,â but Jesus doesnât say the command. He says the permission. He says, âMoses permitted you to divorce your wives because of the hardness of your heartsâ (Matthew 19:8).
Which means, folks, itâs not a requirement, even in cases of adultery. Nobody says you have to go get a divorce just because they did something wrong. So let that be said, right, because Iâve seen too many people pull the trigger way too quickly, even in cases of adultery, as though none of us have looked at another person with lustful intent, right, which weâve already talked about. Jesus says everybody is committed to adultery because adultery begins in the heart, right (Matthew 5:28)? So just remember that. So anyway, Jesus is saying that Moses permitted it.
Divorce Exists Because of Sinful Hearts
And three things that I want you to remember. Jesus says divorce exists because of a sinful heart. Thatâs in the bulletin. So what Moses is giving is, heâs not actually giving the command, heâs giving a regulation. Heâs saying if youâre going to get divorced and send her on her way, you need to know that she cannot come back to you once sheâs remarried. Keil and Delitzsch, a couple of Old Testament scholars who lived over a hundred years ago, brought up some good points, and they said that this regulation of divorce by Moses was being done so that people would not pull the trigger a little bit too quickly. The point is that Moses started regulating divorce to slow the bleeding. You were getting divorced because you didnât like your wifeâs mole or she burned your meal. So Moses says, âIâve got to do something thatâs going to make this go a little bit slower, and Iâm going to tell them that if you, woman, you keep that up, youâre going to be signing papers in the morning.â Heâs putting the brakes on that kind of behavior and attitude. If people know that their wife will not be allowed to return to them after getting divorced and remarried, maybe people will embrace divorce a little bit more slowly.
The other thing that I want you to recognize is that He changes their language from command. They thought it was a command, âOh, I got to get a divorce if I see anything unchaste about my wife,â but then He also says, He brings it back to the Garden, and He says, âSo even though you have Moses, even though Moses permits it, He wants them to understand that this was not this way in the Garden.â Thatâs the priority for Jesus, and it must be that priority for us. We must prioritize and pursue the kind of marriage that God designed in the Garden of Eden before man first sinned.
And so itâs all about sinful hearts. That should radically wake us up. The fact that weâre even interested in divorce at all is an indictment against our sinful nature. Because, like I said before, if you understand that marriage is a visual sermon between man and wife and you still want to get a divorce, there are many caveats, I know, right? Abandonment, abuse, rampant immorality. There are many cases, Iâm not saying that you should never get a divorce, but in most cases when people are wanting to get a divorce, it is because they are forgetting that marriage was meant to be a picture of Christâs pursuit of the Church. Thatâs why Jesus says that Moses gave you this permission because of your hard hearts. It directly reflected their sinful attitudes.
Divorce Is Inseparable from Adultery
All right, the big one is that Jesus gives another response, and this is in verse 9. The second part of Jesusâs response is that, remember this, Church, divorce is inseparable from adultery. So letâs read verse 9. âWhoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, they commit adultery.â A lot of people read this and they think that this is the exception as to when they can get divorced. This is not the exception as to when you can get divorced; this is the exception as to when you can get remarried and not commit adultery. So, in other words, Jesus is saying that all divorces lead to adultery except where adultery led to the divorce. Let me say that again. All divorces lead to adultery except where adultery led to the divorce. Why is that? That is because when we get divorces, it doesnât matter if you sign a divorce certificate and hand it to them, that marriage is still standing in the eyes of God. Thatâs how you can get a divorce, get remarried, and God says you just committed adultery because the piece of paper means nothing to Him. The only time Jesus says that you can actually get a divorce and not be considered an adulterer for remarriage is when you have the divorce certificate and adultery has taken place. Thatâs the only thing that truly dissolves the marriage, but even then I would still encourage you that if your spouse cheats on you to remember that you cheated on Christ first, and to fight for that marriage regardless.
All right. Hereâs the, look, youâll never hear me quote The Message, the Bible translation of The Message, but they knocked this one out of the park. This is what he says for Matthew 5:32:
If you divorce your wife, youâre responsible for making her an adulteress unless she has already made herself that by sexual promiscuity.
Couldnât have said it better myself.
Encourage Marriage (Matthew 19:10â12)
The last point is encourage marriage. Jesus says in verses 10â12, we see His disciples come to Him, and theyâre freaking out. Like, âJesus, this statement is so heavy-handed, weâre better to just stay single.â And Jesus says, âYou know what, letâs look at the eunuch for a second.â If you donât know, a eunuch is somebody who has removed their organs downstairs to remove any sexual desire. Okay. Jesus says youâve got three different types of eunuchs. He says, âYou got some that are born that way, then you got some that are made that way by man.â Like if you became one of the haremâs bodyguards of a king, right? They want to make sure that youâre going to keep your hands off the harem. So youâve got some that are born that way, some that are made that way by men, and then there are some that choose to be that way for the kingdom of heaven. And He tells you, âThis is only a good idea if it is given to you by God.â In other words, not everybody can be single and live a life of celibacy. He says, âBut if you are able to do it, itâs a good thing. If God has given you that gift, it is a good thing.â
Folks, I need to make sure you understand that in the age where we are putting off marriage for affluence, looking at you, young men, we cannot be putting marriage off until we think we have arrived financially. When did God give Adam a wife? Almost immediately after he was born. He grew into adulthood and maturity with a wife. Why? âIt is not good for man to be alone,â it says in Genesis 2:18. It is not good for man to be alone. He should be married. Folks, we are created to be married. Let that sink in. The exception to the rule is those few who are gifted by God to be single. But by and large, that means the majority of us are called and created to be married.
So my question for you is, we should be asking, I mean, my charge for you is that we shouldnât be asking, âWhy should I get married?â The real question is, âWhy shouldnât I?â And money, affluence, and career is not a good reason. Itâs okay to be poor and be married, by the way. Because if you are going to struggle single, why not struggle with a partner?
All right. We are humans, and we were designed for marriage. So Jesus, at this point, I want you guys to understand, He is calling all of us, not just the Pharisees, calling all of us to step back, look at marriage, and say, âThis is a good and beautiful thing. God has brought us together. We have a shared mission, a shared purpose. We are yoked together to change the world by making disciples and preaching a visual sermon.â
So letâs take our celebration of divorces and throw it in the trash. Amen? All right. And letâs encourage our young people to get married. And if youâve got grandchildren and children, tell them, âDonât be afraid to get married young,â but also show them what a real marriage looks like.
Letâs go to the Lord. Father, I thank You so much for Your grace and Your love. I pray that You please bless us and that You help us to cherish marriage as You truly intended it to be cherished. Thank You, Father, that we can be here together today as Your people and use us for Your glory. Amen. All right. Weâre going to do it.